Lika (![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif){kind=small} silent_bunny) wrote,@ 2008-08-09 15:55:00 |
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The volleyball game between Japan and U.S.A. was AWESOME! Yes, I'm watching the Olympics. I am NOT happy with China's human right issues or communism or "the Tibet thing", but then I'm not happy with the human issues of many countries including America and Canada. Plus the idea of using the Olympics to blackmail China into acting more like how the West wants them to act smacks of sanctimony.
So yes,Japan vs. U.S.A. One of those games I didn't want either team to lose because both played with such heart. I was an inch more hoping for Japan to win because they were SO MUCH FUN (as the sports announcer said, even when they missed they were terrific to watch.) Foget Price of Tennis, Japan should put their women's volleyball team on the stage to heart-swelling music and let them go. I would totally get a plane ticket and pay see to that. The U.S. of A was equally compelling, and it was neck-to-neck for the most part. Just a great game that got me very excited and wishing that I did something athletic with my life.
I've been watching a few eighties Hong Kong movies lately. Dude. The shoulder pads, the puffy hair, the flute-inspired background music, "Take my breath away" sung in Cantonese O.o I can't really say if I like them yet. They seem like movies of their time instead of the timeless classics I thought they would be, though having Chinese subtitles REALLY didn't help. AUGH. Why did I quit Chinese school so early? I must have had some misplaced notion that in the future all movies would be subtitled by a push of a button.
Now for the clean-up. Something that I wrote on the long bus ride home that's been cluttering up my C drive for a while.
I don't want to end up like Miranda Hobbes on Sex and City, who said she hated children and parents and look down at people who had kids and said she could never be a mother and then got pregnant, so I'm not going to say I'm not going to have kids. I have no idea what will happen in the future. I just know right now, I don't want them, I don't plan to have them, and I don't see having them in my future. Onwards to random thoughts!
*I don’t’ think I’m overly vocal about being childfree, but I am vocal enough to be self-conscious about it. Shouldn’t it be a non-issue? I don’t plan on having children, fine, let it go, why do I still bring it up? Why is there even a childfree movement? Stop bitching and get on with your life.
The thing is, a lot of childfree people are surrounded by people, particularly family and if you go to a church (HOLY HELL, churches!) that tell them that they should have children, that they MUST have children, that they’re praying for their future family, that (this is my favorite) the world will depopulate if they don’t have children. I think I can do a survey on this: the childfree who don’t make a big issue out of it probably grew up with parents who didn’t care if they had kids and a community that didn’t bug them about being parents; the vocal ones are the ones who had their share of people telling them how awesome parenthood is and they must try it out, and the very very vocal ones grew up in churches ;)
*Can someone please to explain to me why “there’s too many people on this planet already” isn’t a valid reason to not have kids? A lot of the people determined to have every person of childbearing age in a delivery room seem to think that’s not a “real” reason not to have kids. Is that they don’t believe the world is overpopulated? I guess that’s part of it, as I know of Christians who thinks it’s God will to multiple and He’ll provide for all the children (because He’s doing such a fantastic job already), and hey, global warming is a lie too!
*I think one of the reasons why it’s easier for me to not have children is because I’m super close to my nieces. I love them as my own, and am totally invested in their future and enjoying their present as any parent would be. I’m also looking forward to any of my friends who might decide to have kids (each their children will have at least one poorly knitted garment by moi.) No, I don’t hate children, I don’t hate parents, and if anyone who I care about has kids in the future, I’ll be more than happy to help babysit and knit stuff for them and spoil both mommy and baby rotten.
*I hate it when people with children think I ought to thank them for having children that will pay for my old age pension. That’s provided I reach old age. That’s provided their kids reach a working age. If their kids die early of a terminal disease that costs the government a lot of money while they were in palladine care, can I ask for a refund? Or if they end up in jail? Or end up with being born with a handicap and therefore cannot work? Yes, I’m being crass but I think parents who insist the childfree owe something to their children for potentially paying taxes don’t deserve delicacy. No, I don’t know owe you or your children anything more than I expect anything from those living on pension that’s being supported by the taxes I pay now.
* I understand why childfree want to come off as if they have no second guessing about their choice, that they have no doubts and will not have regrets. You show a little sadness in your choice and the goddamn breeders jump all over you and start yelling that you really want children. But I think there is regret involved, at least in my case. I don’t think I’m going to regret my choice to not have children, but there will be some regrets. There are some regrets already. Of course if I had kids, there’d be regrets as well, and I think those regrets will be greater than the ones I have now for choosing not to have kids. Anyways, it isn’t a sign of weakness to feel a little sadness at decision to not have children. It doesn’t mean that I should have kids, or I’m going to hate myself for not having them later in life.
*For me, the decision to have or not have children is too enormous to take lightly, too complex to get mad at someone if they change mind, too serious to expect someone to make a one time decision and stick to it, or on the flip, too serious that believe that they’ll change their If mind later maybe they should try to have one to see if it’ not really for them. For me, the decision to be or not be childfree is far more personal and complicated than most people, including the childfree, give it credit for.
The volleyball game between Japan and U.S.A. was AWESOME! Yes, I'm watching the Olympics. I am NOT happy with China's human right issues or communism or "the Tibet thing", but then I'm not happy with the human issues of many countries including America and Canada. Plus the idea of using the Olympics to blackmail China into acting more like how the West wants them to act smacks of sanctimony.
So yes,Japan vs. U.S.A. One of those games I didn't want either team to lose because both played with such heart. I was an inch more hoping for Japan to win because they were SO MUCH FUN (as the sports announcer said, even when they missed they were terrific to watch.) Foget Price of Tennis, Japan should put their women's volleyball team on the stage to heart-swelling music and let them go. I would totally get a plane ticket and pay see to that. The U.S. of A was equally compelling, and it was neck-to-neck for the most part. Just a great game that got me very excited and wishing that I did something athletic with my life.
I've been watching a few eighties Hong Kong movies lately. Dude. The shoulder pads, the puffy hair, the flute-inspired background music, "Take my breath away" sung in Cantonese O.o I can't really say if I like them yet. They seem like movies of their time instead of the timeless classics I thought they would be, though having Chinese subtitles REALLY didn't help. AUGH. Why did I quit Chinese school so early? I must have had some misplaced notion that in the future all movies would be subtitled by a push of a button.
Now for the clean-up. Something that I wrote on the long bus ride home that's been cluttering up my C drive for a while.
I don't want to end up like Miranda Hobbes on Sex and City, who said she hated children and parents and look down at people who had kids and said she could never be a mother and then got pregnant, so I'm not going to say I'm not going to have kids. I have no idea what will happen in the future. I just know right now, I don't want them, I don't plan to have them, and I don't see having them in my future. Onwards to random thoughts!
*I don’t’ think I’m overly vocal about being childfree, but I am vocal enough to be self-conscious about it. Shouldn’t it be a non-issue? I don’t plan on having children, fine, let it go, why do I still bring it up? Why is there even a childfree movement? Stop bitching and get on with your life.
The thing is, a lot of childfree people are surrounded by people, particularly family and if you go to a church (HOLY HELL, churches!) that tell them that they should have children, that they MUST have children, that they’re praying for their future family, that (this is my favorite) the world will depopulate if they don’t have children. I think I can do a survey on this: the childfree who don’t make a big issue out of it probably grew up with parents who didn’t care if they had kids and a community that didn’t bug them about being parents; the vocal ones are the ones who had their share of people telling them how awesome parenthood is and they must try it out, and the very very vocal ones grew up in churches ;)
*Can someone please to explain to me why “there’s too many people on this planet already” isn’t a valid reason to not have kids? A lot of the people determined to have every person of childbearing age in a delivery room seem to think that’s not a “real” reason not to have kids. Is that they don’t believe the world is overpopulated? I guess that’s part of it, as I know of Christians who thinks it’s God will to multiple and He’ll provide for all the children (because He’s doing such a fantastic job already), and hey, global warming is a lie too!
*I think one of the reasons why it’s easier for me to not have children is because I’m super close to my nieces. I love them as my own, and am totally invested in their future and enjoying their present as any parent would be. I’m also looking forward to any of my friends who might decide to have kids (each their children will have at least one poorly knitted garment by moi.) No, I don’t hate children, I don’t hate parents, and if anyone who I care about has kids in the future, I’ll be more than happy to help babysit and knit stuff for them and spoil both mommy and baby rotten.
*I hate it when people with children think I ought to thank them for having children that will pay for my old age pension. That’s provided I reach old age. That’s provided their kids reach a working age. If their kids die early of a terminal disease that costs the government a lot of money while they were in palladine care, can I ask for a refund? Or if they end up in jail? Or end up with being born with a handicap and therefore cannot work? Yes, I’m being crass but I think parents who insist the childfree owe something to their children for potentially paying taxes don’t deserve delicacy. No, I don’t know owe you or your children anything more than I expect anything from those living on pension that’s being supported by the taxes I pay now.
* I understand why childfree want to come off as if they have no second guessing about their choice, that they have no doubts and will not have regrets. You show a little sadness in your choice and the goddamn breeders jump all over you and start yelling that you really want children. But I think there is regret involved, at least in my case. I don’t think I’m going to regret my choice to not have children, but there will be some regrets. There are some regrets already. Of course if I had kids, there’d be regrets as well, and I think those regrets will be greater than the ones I have now for choosing not to have kids. Anyways, it isn’t a sign of weakness to feel a little sadness at decision to not have children. It doesn’t mean that I should have kids, or I’m going to hate myself for not having them later in life.
*For me, the decision to have or not have children is too enormous to take lightly, too complex to get mad at someone if they change mind, too serious to expect someone to make a one time decision and stick to it, or on the flip, too serious that believe that they’ll change their If mind later maybe they should try to have one to see if it’ not really for them. For me, the decision to be or not be childfree is far more personal and complicated than most people, including the childfree, give it credit for.
